Battle of the loo roll

I have a son who suffers from OCD.

We have always just gone with it and he copes quite well – it’s not the type of OCD that involves having to turn off a light switch a certain amount of times or having to do a ritual before leaving the house.

It’s the whole ‘clean’ form of OCD – not cleaning the house but making sure hands are clean, not eating messy food such as ribs or finger foods.

He’s now 18 and has concept of what’s going on.

I’ve always tried to make him aware of over usage of toilet paper but ‘it’s just him and what he does’. He knows what works for him and also what he can’t cope with.

I can’t really change his habit , not after all this time…. can I?

I’ve always know he goes through quite a lot of loo roll but it seems to have gone to the extreme. He’s in the loo for hours and I means hours and as a household (of 4) we go through 8 rolls plus a week and most of that is my son.

We have a three storey house with a toilet on each floor. If he uses all of it on his floor, he will then use the other toilets until all the rolls have gone.

Even went on Amazon the other day and ordered 32 loo rolls and have put some as back up – just in case we run out.

He says he just doesn’t feel ‘clean’ – even tried the wet wipe type toilet tissues…. but that’s not right either.

What’s the normal amount of loo roll that is meant to be used per visit ??

Any people with OCD with the same issue?

Is this a normal ‘OCD’ trait? I’ve never really thought about it before.

Dining in the dark

Well this week, my husband and I and some friends went to dining in the dark.

It was different!! It wasn’t completely dark so you couldn’t see where your knife and fork was… but it was dark enough for you to have to put your face 2 inches from the food put in front of you just to see if you could work out what it was. Then there were some dishes that were still questionable.

I found it interesting that they tried to mess with your mind – like giving you typically traditional sauce pancake (like the ones you get from a Chinese restaurant) but then realising it’s not duck!

Or breaded onion rings/calamari – which wasn’t.

The only down sides were that the portions were tiny and by the time the food came out it was either luke warm or cold. It’s not like you could send it back either because you didn’t have a clue what it was or how it was meant to taste.

After every dish the lights were put back on for you to fill in your ‘guessing form’.

At the end of the evening you were told what it was.

I guessed 4 out of 7.

Would I do it again?? Probably not 😂

Not for £30 a head – ended up coming out starving and wanting a McDonalds.

Restaurant (and other food venues) review

The Crown at Great Ellingham

– what a lovely place this is!!

Fantastic gastropub food, freshly cooked and reasonably sized (not too much – but just enough) and reasonably priced.

Staff were fantastic and went out of their way to make sure we were happy diners!!

Ate everything that was put in front of me.

Would definitely go back!!

Sprowston Manor

Would not go back – well for food anyway.

Two mains off the menu and then we were told three puddings were off the menu – leaving just fruit, ice cream and cheese!

Asked for a glass of Rose and got charged for a whole bottle!

Asked for chicken Caesar salad and got a salad without the chicken!!

Other than that, spa was lovely, pool was lovely and jacuzzi lovely.

Massive 4 poster bed and the company wasn’t bad either. 🙂

Rift – what would you do?

So what do you do when your husband has one way of thinking and you have the totally opposite view point??

A situation has cropped up over a friendship.

Brief outline – the wife has left her husband about 6 times now and each time has returned back to the husband.

When it first happened – we were there for the husband. She didn’t like this! Well let me clarify ‘she didn’t like ME doing this’.

Found out that apparently she never liked me, she has never seen me as a friend and she didn’t want to be my bridesmaid.

So after I found that out – I took a back step.

However, the time before last – I did try… I invited her and her husband out with us. I messaged – she messaged back.

Then she deleted me for the second time on Facebook. I took that as a ‘it’s done’. She deleted me because she saw that I was out with her other friends having a meal and she didn’t feel ‘included’. However, when she left… she made it clear that she want me as a friend, so I tried to build on the friendships that were around me. I made more of an effort with others.

She didn’t like this!!

My husband works with her husband (he’s self employed and works as a builder), so my husband is trying to keep the peace to make his work life easier and calmer – which I can completely understand. If his friendship goes bad with the husband then it will affect his business. If the wife is happy, then the husband will be happy and he will carry on working with my husband.

He believes everyone deserves a chance and if she is getting help then we should be there for her (and he has been friends with the wife and husband for a long time).

Now looking back over the supposed friendship we used to have (which I thought we had but according to her it’s never was) it was always me messaging her first. She never messaged first, never invited me anywhere – always through my husband.

So, it had always been a one way friendship.

I’ve had past experiences surrounding in infidelity – I have been deeply hurt and have been to counselling many times to try and get my head straight. Even now I will openly admit ‘I’m not fixed’ – I still have anxiety and I have serious jealousy issues due to being ‘an option’ and ‘not good enough to keep a man’.

Counselling has allowed me to gain control again of my life and I feel stronger.

So when this situation first hit – it bought memories back and made them raw. I am always going to side with someone who has been hurt than to those who have done the damage. We were both there for the husband and I tried to help – even gave him my counsellors details. The wife saw this as being there for him and not her – but I can honestly say I did message her and all I got back was ‘yeah I’m fine thanks’ (end off conversation).

The husband deleted messaged between me and him and I found out from one of our out her friends that the wife thinks I was after her husband!!! WTF!! The deleted messages were basically me talking to him about how he probably shouldn’t take her back, she’s done it many a time and she will do it again. Also in it he wrote that she was vile!! However, he deleted this because he obviously didn’t want her to see it.

So anyway, she left again the other week, stayed that she still had feelings for the other man!! 3 days later she was back apparently going to try harder and going to get help. My husband thinks we should be there for her and give her a chance.

Last night I noticed she has taken me off her contacts because her WhatsApp picture has gone and so has her status (it was there yesterday morning) – but it’s there for my husband and my other friends to see. She really doesn’t like me does she?!

She said she will get help but if I’m honest, I will believe it when I see it. I reckon she is just saying what she thinks he will want to hear. Time will tell I suppose.

Me and husband had a massive argument the other day – apparently I was being childish because I had put a picture on Facebook of me and my friends when we went out for food the other night with the comment ‘love these ladies’.

Why did he get annoyed? I hear you ask – because apparently I am poking the bear and the wife will be sad/angry if she sees it! Now she isn’t on my facebook (she deleted me) but we have mutual friends. So in his eyes I am not allowed to check in anywhere (especially if it’s with friends) and I can’t put any pictures up on Facebook showing I’ve been enjoying myself with friends in case it upsets her.

So in protest I have come off of Facebook!

Do I ignore my feelings and viewpoint and back my husbands views to make life easier for him?

Do I ignore how she has treated me?

Or do I respect myself and follow what I learnt during my counselling ?

Thoughts….

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